Sometimes, alone is ok….
Yes, sometimes alone is good, for it can be and often is, when we are in that state of separation from others, that we have the liberty of thought and volition to see ourselves through our own eyes…and maybe find ourselves again. While input and feedback are good, as those others’ eyes can see things that we do not or cannot see in ourselves, self-reflection can be as healthy…and necessary.
In this alone-time, we can also find confidence to persevere in whatever circumstances, or to re-orient ourselves toward earlier and possibly more important goals, redirect ourselves, reprioritize…or even resign, let go after the stress of life and reflection, because we know or understand that further effort would be a waste or a surrendering, or even a sacrificing of ourselves for something or someone who is no longer worth the emotion and energy to do more, or to futilely attempt to do more. The quiet helps us regroup when a room is too loud, when our life is too loud, or even when it’s just too loud in our heads…our minds.
Sometimes alone is good, in that it allows us to empty our minds of the pressures or concerns that are so draining; we can remove those issues and simply be in a state of openness of mind that has nothing in it, maybe nothing other than an awareness of ourselves, or an awareness of nature and its awesome enormity that allows or urges us to see that our own concerns are nothing, or very minimal, in the grand scale of life and time that exists outside of ourselves, and out in the ever that is.
Solitude can also help us remember the precious or special things that exist in the people who people our lives; it helps us remember the things that drew us to them in the beginning and have sustained our desires to be with them since; it can give us a glimpse of absence and what comes after…. Sometimes, alone is good.
I agree, sometimes alone is very good 🙂
December 3, 2011 at 11:02 am
December 3, 2011 at 11:12 am
You are never really alone. You may be alone with your thoughts and memories. You sleep with your dreams. Or you may be out communing with nature. Either way you have a sense of belonging to something greater than yourself. I find being away from civilization, in the wild is probably the closest I come to not being alone, but belonging to something far greater and more important than myself.
December 4, 2011 at 5:04 pm
This is truly beautiful, Steven…and a wonderful complement to the post…thank you so much!
December 4, 2011 at 5:47 pm
Being sometimes alone while in nature is a blessing. Being alone amongst others is a curse!!
December 5, 2011 at 8:17 am
I do agree that sometimes being alone in nature is a blessing, but I do find, many times, that being alone among others is a curse. I suppose it depends on who is in that group of others. 🙂
December 5, 2011 at 8:23 am
Hello, seekraz. I especially appreciate your statement: The quiet helps us regroup when a room is too loud, when our life is too loud, or even when it’s just too loud in our heads…our minds.
It brings back memories of when my daughter was younger, and had difficulty when “everything was loud.” This statement captures so much….thank-you.
April 2, 2012 at 6:37 pm
You are very welcome, Cathy…and thank you for your nice words.
April 3, 2012 at 6:20 am
Liked it even better the second time around. 🙂
April 8, 2012 at 11:01 pm
How nice…thank you, Gunta. 🙂
April 9, 2012 at 6:40 am